We believe in a future where the stigma associated with suicide and mental illness is erased.

Providing compassionate comfort for those affected by suicide or mental/brain health illness and pain.

Let’s change the definition of suicide to change the conversation
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WHAT WE BELIEVE

  1. i understand suicide is an effect of illness or pain
  2. i understand mental/brain health illnesses are treatable and preventable
  3. i understand stigma is the #1 reason why someone would not seek treatment for mental/brain illness; education and awareness are vital to saving and changing lives
  4. i understand reaching out to those who are suffering could save a life; let someone know you are available and treat them with respect and compassion
  5. i understand most people who are suicidal do not want to die; they want their pain to end
  6. i understand speaking out about suicide may empower others to share their stories
  7. i understand feelings of guilt are part of the grieving process on the way to finding peace and acceptance
  8. i understand those who die by suicide do make it to heaven

Change the Conversation, Change Lives

Love heals and can be found in unexpected places.

Vonnie Woodrick, founder of i understand, shares her passion for changing the definition of suicide and how her journey led to hope and understanding.

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Call the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1.800.273.8255 (TALK) or contact the Crisis Text Line by texting HOME to 741741

If you’re thinking about suicide, are worried about a friend or loved one, or would like emotional support, the Lifeline network is available 24/7 across the United States.

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💗It was a privilege to speak virtually with Metro Health Integrated Network. I had the pleasure of meeting Kathy who invited me to speak.

📖I was grateful to provide all 40 attendees with - i understand pain, love and healing after suicide book, thanks to a donor who purchased books to share with others. 

🤗Bringing the conversation to everyday places and bringing understanding to something so difficult to understand. 

💗Book can be purchased here: 
https://www.amazon.com/Understand-Pain-Healing-after-Suicide/dp/0802878040/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=i+understand+love+heals&qid=1627504603&sprefix=i+un&sr=8-1

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I know and love Kathy..an awesome young lady..and…I am thankful for I Understand! 👵🏻😘❤️❤️

can I message you and will order the book thank you

💗YOU are something to celebrate! 

You don’t have to wait for your birthday to celebrate. You’re pretty special and we think you deserve a YAY YOU today, a pat on the back and a reminder you got this! 💪

Just not feeling it? You’re not invisible - we see you, but sometimes don’t know the pain you face. Talk to someone. Tell yourself your worth it. Go to the doctor. Join a support group. Call a therapist. Support is available. 

Let’s get you to recognize the YAY YOU in you! 

24/7 - 1.800.283.TALK or TEXT - GO to 741741

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Another good one that I need to remember. Thanks 💖💖🤗🤗.

💗The door is always open... 

🤗Today, I reflect not only the seven years of i understand but a life of unexpected twists and turns leading me to the right door, the right path, even though it was hard to accept. 

❤️The difference we are making, continues to heal my broken heart. The love from unexpected places, keeps me going. The words from strangers give me hope and belief that everything may happen for a reason, giving me clarity to my journey.

😢Yet... not everyone is nice, not all comments are helpful and sometimes words hurt. Those don’t happen often, but they seem to have bigger impact that question my worth, my value and my work.

Know this... not everyone is going to agree, some people judge, others may be angry, there may be one that just doesn’t like you, or maybe some jealousy is at play. 

🚪It’s okay to close the door when things don’t make you feel good or something just may not feel right. You need to protect yourself. 

For me, I have closed the door on some - maybe even slammed it. At the end of the day remember... love and understanding get you to a much better place than judgment and angst and maybe... leave the door opened a crack to allow for forgiveness. 

🥰My most valuable gift from i understand is learning, love comes from unexpected places and YOU are an unexpected place and the best gift I could ever receive. Thank you all, for the continued love and support. Love heals. 

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U do amazing things. Always know the right thing to say. Have helped so many including myself. Great picture to go along with the great advice.

The work you do is amazing. And your outift is adorable!

Thank you for all you are doing Vonnie! Now take the day off and celebrate you! Happy Birthday to you!💖🥂🎂🎉

You are truly beautiful inside and out. 🙏🏼❤️

So we’ll written Vonnie! Thank you🦋

What a beautiful post. Vonnie you are such a special, amazing, loving, beautiful woman and friend to all. Gress we t picture in your fabulous suit❤️

Keep your chin up and your middle finger higher to the meanies....you are doing great things and are appreciated ❤️

Thank you my friend for who you are, for the courage and emotional strength that it takes to make others lives more wonderful 💝😘

All true. Thank you

Thank you Vonnie for your kind and loving words. Even for the doubters, skeptics and the haters. Know they are the very few . We stand behind , beside and in front of you to shield the way for the amazing work God has asked you to do .💞🙏🏼

Blessings on ya, lady!

Love your words! Love your ways. (Love that suit! 😉) Your post reminded me of one of my favorite quotes, “Never put out your fire because someone doesn’t understand your flame.” You. Are. Amazing.

The band “311” has the perfect line in their song ‘All Mixed Up’. Here’s the radio edit: “F**k the naysayers ‘cause they don’t mean a thing…” Repeat as needed. 😊

Thank you for sharing these important words!

Thank you for sharing your journey.....you offer hope to so many 😘❤️

Thank you for your courage and continued faithfulness ❤️ What you are doing is so needed 😊

I love this ❤️. And you are so right about finding in unexpected places!

Keep shining that light Vonnie! Since that first big event at FMG, it’s been an amazing seven years.

Love This! Yes you are doing great things Vonnie! Helping others is healing and rewarding. Made me think of the song lyrics, "The door is always open and the lights on in the hall, you know that I'll be waiting, if you ever come to call." 💕

You are remarkable Vonnie. Thank you for all your hard work and for being an inspiration. Sorry some people are filled with nasty comments…..sometimes it is because they are coming from hurt but that does not make it ok. Keep fighting and know that you are having a HUGE impact. 💗👏🏼

Keep shining your light there are so many in the dark trying to find a way.💚💕

Growing thru Understanding…💗

Beautifully written

Good morning Vonnie, I finished your book last night. It brought me to tears and really helped me understand. My heart aches for you and your children & I can see that what you are doing with I Understand is so helpful to so many people. We need more wonderful people in the world like you, thank you for I Understand & your kind heart ❤️

I love this Vonnie! Thank you for sharing! 💗

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💗Stigma is dangerous. 

☝️Stigma is the number one reason those who are struggling don’t reach out for help. 

😢You are NOT... 

WEAK if you have pain so deep. 

Talking about your struggles, whatever they may be could change or save your life. 

🤗Words matter...

Remove stigmatized words from your conversation such as commit. 

Did you know up until 1964 suicide was considered a crime? That’s where the word commit comes in. 

Do we commit cancer or other illnesses? 

🥺How did they “do it?” Is the number one question after a suicide loss. 

Why? Did you know that brings me back to the devastation, triggering the PTSD I experienced and causes flashbacks that are emotionally damaging. 

Does “how” really matter? 

💗Why aren’t we asking, “why vs. “how?”

Talking about the illness/pain rather than the act can lead to very different conversations.

“My husband died of depression.”

Did you know that depression whether diagnosed or undiagnosed is present in most cases? 

“My daughter suffered from bullying.”

Over 54% of deaths do not have a mental health illness diagnosis at time of death. Pain is common denominator. 

🤗We all have experienced pain at some point in our lives. Couldn’t we all be at risk? 

Pain can come from bullying, financial devastation, heartache, isolation, physical pain, grief, addiction, and more! 

Let’s recognize pain as a catalyst. Let’s talk about our struggles with love and understanding rather than judgement and angst. 

💞Help is available 24/7 - 1.800.273.TALK
or Text GO to 741741

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Thank you

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Yes, we could all be at risk. Maybe we all have been in that much pain at one time in our lives, and have considered it a way to end the pain. Since suicide is something we don't talk about, we don't share those stories.

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